self care? Or selfish?

Its ok choose your self. To choose your own needs.

But do so openly. Be clear. Be honest. 

That is self care. 

But to mask such an act with altruism-

To convince another that you are service to them;

when the intention is to serve your own self first-

is not ok.

That is selfish.

That is manipulation.

The former invites self respect and dignity. 

The latter paves a path to anguish. 

Truth prevails, and those who were deceived will realise. 

And the immediate result- abandonment. resentment.