Have you ever asked a question to another, that may require them to explain themselves, and have been met with words that have left you questioning your self worth? Blame shifted onto you? Disrespect? Disregard?
Know that the problem is not with you, but the one who spoke to you that way.
How dare they try and lower another person's self esteem as a knee jerk to feeling vulnerable? In an attempt to mask their own insecurities, they immediately shifted the focus away from themselves and onto another.
Emotionally healthy individuals acknowledge the uncomfortable feeling, accept it and will talk it through. Those who are emotionally unhealthy will simply snap back, using words that pierce like knives. Its a self defence mechanism. Of course, there is reason for that to be in place. Previous betrayal of trust, past emotional trauma.
But you're not supposed to heal whoever you come across, not at the cost of your own self. Leave them be to face their own demons, to realise that they brought upon their own destruction and will continue to do so till real change is made, from within.
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