Confusion to contentment. Steps for change

After many days of darkness, of dissappointment, feelings of rejection and lack of self worth, I reached an uncomfortable point of rock bottom. I woke up at night to pray, reflect and change.
And that change was implemented. Darkness turned to light, slowly yet surely.
How I climbed out of my feelings of confusion and doubt is something that I'd like to remember. Because we slip, time and time again. And this will serve as emotional first aid for myself.




Contentment depends on the state of the subconscious mind.
But how do we take care of  something outside our conscious control?


- Indirectly.

It is through our actions.

Turns out all things conscious, our actions (and my extension, thoughts and behaviours) shape our subconscious.
So to create a content and peaceful mind requires actions that will leave behind feelings of contentment.
Doing the things which show we love and respect ourselves. The more of these actions we perform, the greater our self esteem and the greater our feelings of peace and contentment. We are worthy. We are valued and we are able.
Conversely, acting out of sabotage or neglect of the self, worsens the state of the subconscious. Whether that be laziness, self neglect, accepting bad treatment etc.

Change your actions, behaviour and thoughts.
You are enough, just as you are. Imperfect, yet enough. You have beautiful qualities and you are worthy of love and respect.
Then start acting accordingly.


If you don't like how someone if treating you, distance yourself.
Define boundaries.
Say no when you need to.
Take care of your physical form.
Work out to honour your body.
Eat to nourish.
Invest time in the things you're passionate about.
Love others.

Your actions are done either out of love and respect for yourself. Or out of fear, insecurity or doubt. Choose to act out of self love to raise your own esteem. Take control out of the hands of others, and return it to your own hands.
Find validation within yourself and create your own source of positive energy.